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We can flourish as adult children of alcoholics (ACoA) although all our tribulations have been exceedingly unique. Many of our stories bring to mind something comparable to a nightmarish fairy tale.  However, I truly believe that our challenges engender an immense strength that resides within us. We can utilize our heightened sense of intuition, compassion, and ability to literally shine!  We are blooming, resilient, and unbeaten warriors, living today in this moment, in this day and in this lifetime!

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  1. I find that challenges in childhood can become a strength later in life from all the lessons that are learned through the experience.

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      You are so right. I consider myself to be very blessed in that I am an extremely empathetic individual who has given back to my community. I recognize my blessings and have grown to be a strong decisive individual. I also broke the cycle with my daughter. Thank you so much for your very true and kind comment. Thank you for reading as well it really does mean a lot. Love Joni

      1. You are very welcome! It is my pleasure! I hope you are having a wonderful weekend!

      2. jonicaggiano says:

        I am thank you. Hope your day is full of happiness and smiles. Love 💕 J

  2. A beautiful shared hope merited by having overcome!❤️🌺❤️

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      My apologies, I didn’t see this comment until just now. I chatted with an accommodating person on WordPress for about an hour to understand how I could be missing comments.

      I found out today that WordPress limits the number of notifications you can have (a relatively small amount that’s not configurable). If I don’t respond to comments quickly (which includes new posts on every site I follow), it is likely to drop off. This means I won’t see a comment at all, as I have reached my limit, and the comment drops off.

      I should be able to bypass this limitation by checking the comment section of my WordPress account on the computer many times a day. Please accept my apology, and I sincerely hope you have a blessed and fantastic day!

      1. It’s not you Joni. It’s WordPress. There are some strange going ins with many apologies. I have some that I cannot remove error messages if forbidden??? 🤔 not only that but some time fairly recent I commented on a bloggers photography as a shot and later found that I called it shit.🤔…and another time the word Oreo came up????🤔

      2. jonicaggiano says:

        Hi ya, I am doing this 37 times today. I have been working on this all day. I feel terrible. I didn’t know once you have too many comments they drop off under notifications. I like my phone for commenting. I have a premium plan not the most expensive but I mean the last thing I would ever do is ignore my buddies in WordPress. I have heard of others losing comments. Glad you understand, thanks for being so kind. I can’t be on my phone 24/7. I have to write, cook, dance, sing, drink coffee ☕️ and exercise. No I am not in The New Yorker yet but it is my goal my friend. Hope you had an awesome day my friend. I haven’t even had anytime to read hardly any post today. Well have a great evening. Love, hugs, great tunes and blessings to you my dear friend. Love 💕 Joni

      3. I don’t believe that comments drop off. Not in the terms and agreement. A glitch? Yes. Don’t believe the misconceptions. Take care Joni. Enjoy your day! Singing, dancing and exercising Hugs to you! 🎼💃🏋️‍♀️

      4. jonicaggiano says:

        Your too sweet my friend. I guess there is a hole out there some where. My husband made banana muffins for dinner, so I had two. I told him after I made dinner, after I do my indoor biking, I will eat more muffins. See we’re this is heading kind of like the comments. I am just about done with my 37 explanations. Hugs ☕️☕️☕️🤗❤️💕 Joni

      5. LOL! I am happy to learn that the muffins your husband baked came out well. There are some kind if going ins. Keep safe!🙏🤔❤️❤️♥️♥️❤️❤️

      6. jonicaggiano says:

        You too my friend have a blessed evening. I will send you a muffin and you can brew us up
        A cup of coffee. ☕️☕️❤️💕 love J

      7. Stay away from the holes that are somewhere…!!🤔

      8. jonicaggiano says:

        You are cracking me up and I needed that laugh 😂 thanks my friend. Hugs

      9. I’ve noticed that too! I receive comment notifications via email very slowly. Hopefully no one will think we were neglectful.

      10. jonicaggiano says:

        No I know from my own comments about this people are aware and use to it. People have been very king. ❤️

  3. Dear Joni, I’ve nominated you for the “Awesome Blogger Award”. I hope you accept it!

    http://www.murmelmeister.com/2020/05/11/awesome-blogger-award

    Sent with love. Yours, Sovely

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Hi Sovely I first want to congratulate you on your award. It is a gift to be recognized by our fellow bloggers. Thank you so much for thinking of me. It means so much to me. So very kind of you. After my first blogging award which meant so much I decided to say thank you and let my heart be touched. It took me eight hours to answer the first one because I struggled and agonized over naming people. So please accept my gratitude, love and appreciation. Have a truly blessed week my friend. Love 💕 Joni

      1. Dear Joni, yes, you are right, blogging awards are time consuming and not everyone likes it. After all I always feel it’s worth to share a smile. That’s my attempt, all this positive energy. I want you to know I always enjoy visiting your blog, my dear friend. My best wishes are with you. Love, Sovely

      2. jonicaggiano says:

        Thank you for understanding it wasn’t the work it was the agonizing about who to nominate. I did it but it took me hours to decide because I feel so blessed to have meet such wonderful people, so that is why. I am grateful and appreciate you Sovely. Thank you for your friendship. Love and hugs Joni

  4. This has made you stronger and who you are today! You have come a long way

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you I certainly like to think so. God bless you too my friend and thanks again. Love 💕 Joni

  5. Timothy Price says:

    My parents never touched alcohol, but I had friends who had parents who were alcoholics. I started working for an artisan woodworker when I was 15 years old. I learned so many skills from that man that I still use today. He was an alcoholic and it gave me so much pain during the almost three years I worked for him to watch him slowly run the business and his marriage into ruin. I felt so helpless as a teenager with little life experience to say or do anything that would make a difference.

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      You are very kind. Even as a teenager you could see the tragedy around you from the alcohol abuse. Sounds like you were an extremely perceptive teenager. I am so glad you were spared that nightmare growing up. Thank you so much for your kind and sensitive comments. Love and hugs Joni. 🌸🌺

  6. Beautiful. <3

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you so much Anna for your kindness and support. Have a blessed week my friend. Love to you and yours. ❤️💕Joni

  7. My sincere pleasure, Joni. You have a blessed week, too, my friend. Love to you and yours. <3 <3 <3

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you my friend. ❤️💕

  8. Here here and Bravo!!! Yes! This is a wonderful proclamation, Joni!!! I love it! Thank You and CHEERS! 🤗❤️😊

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Oh thank you my friend. I appreciate your kind support. Have a blessed and wonderful weekend. Love ❤️ Joni 🤗💕☕️

      1. My absolute pleasure, Joni!!! And Thank You! Sending You much Love and wishes for a most wonderful week full of much that gifts Y’all smiles! 🤗☕️❤️!

      2. jonicaggiano says:

        ❤️💕🤗💖

  9. You shine beautifully! Also, I love the painting on the header of your blog. It pulls me in. Did you paint it?

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Oh thank you so much for your very kind words. I am so glad you like the painting, thank you. I told my daughter about a beautiful place my parents took us, a lake in NC called White Lake. I had a picture of me and my other two siblings 13 months apart each of us there on a raft. She had this painting commissioned for me by an artist in Seattle called Fran Holt. It was a Christmas gift from my daughter. It is very precious to me. Thank you for noticing. Sending loving hugs, prayers and love to you and your family. 🤗💕❤️🙏Joni

      1. Wow, yes, that is incredibly special! What an amazingly thoughtful gift. Your daughter must be a very sensitive and loving person. Beautiful!

      2. jonicaggiano says:

        Oh thank you she is such a tremendous blessing in my life. I pray your family is all well and blessed. You are very kind. Love ❤️ Joni

      3. I get that. My daughters make my life SO much richer too. Sending a hug and wishing you a most beautiful, Merry Christmas, Joni! <3

      4. jonicaggiano says:

        You too my friend. Blessings to you and merry Christmas to you as well. 🤗💕❤️💝 love and blessings Joni

  10. denise421win says:

    Wow, so nicely written, you are right

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you so much Denise. I am so glad you read my about page. Sending love and hugs 🤗

  11. denise421win says:

    Awesome… survivors are a super special set of people

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you for reading and for your comment my friend. Yes I believe we are as are all those who have survived terrible tragedy or war. Have a really blessed weekend with you family Denise. Hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ Joni

      1. denise421win says:

        Enjoy your day and stay safe Joni…

      2. jonicaggiano says:

        You too Denise, xoxoxo

  12. Great inspiring post! The past is in the past, we can learn from it, but we don’t have to stay there.

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you my friend. You are so right. It takes hard work so that you don’t end up repeating the same cycles. I am truly blessed but it was my relationship with God that got me through. Thank you so much for reading and your kind response. Hope you and your family have a blessed day. Love ❤️ Joni

  13. denise421win says:

    You are right, those of us who go through challenging circumstances get a chance to be stronger than others… Great post Joni

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you so much Denise. You are a sweetheart. Bless you for trying to make a difference. 🤗❤️💕

  14. I’m glad that you are able to utilize your past trauma to build your strength.

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you so much that is so kind of you, I am very grateful. 🤗 if one person realizes they are not alone it is so worth it. I live a very blessed life and broke the cycle with my family. Have a truly blessed weekend. 🤗

  15. butungislayp says:

    Love, joy and light to you, Joni! 💜💜💜

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Oh thank you and love, joy and light right back at you!❤️

      1. butungislayp says:

        Received with thanks and you’re welcome 💜

  16. TIB says:

    You were made strong.

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      My sweet mermaid friend, this was in my trash, that doesn’t make any sense to me. We have followed each other for a long time. Thank you for reading and your very kind comment. I don’t think I was so strong, I honestly think having conversations with God all day, off and on helped me to know He would not let anything happen to me. Say hello to all your Mer friends and sending wishes that all your waters become cleaner so you can breathe easier. My hugs and love, Joni

  17. Michele Lee says:

    Empowered writing, Joni. 💗 Wishing you a peaceful and prosperous 2023!

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Hello dear Michele thank you so very much for reading and glad you find it empowering. That is a wonderful thing to hear and what I had hoped to accomplish while I was writing. You couldn’t have paid me a nicer compliment. Michele I don’t know if you are aware but MasticadoresUSA is accepting submissions right now and you could use a beautiful photo you took as well. Blessings, hugs and lots of love to you and all those you love. ❤️

      1. Michele Lee says:

        Hi Joni, thank you for letting me know about the impact of my comment and of publishing opportunities. Have a wonderful holiday week. 🤗💖

      2. jonicaggiano says:

        You are so welcomed Michele. I hope you have had a wonderful Holiday. Big blessings and hugs, love, Joni 🌹🦋❤️

  18. Kritika says:

    Agree we all are warriors. If we listen to the courage which resides in us, nothing can come in between. I am loving your site.

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Hello Kritika I really appreciate what you said. Yes we are indeed warriors and we have to hang on to what we know is our truth. Young children are just that children and therefore innocent. I am so glad that you are enjoying my site. Thank you so much and great big blessings to you. love Joni

      1. Kritika says:

        My pleasure kindly 🙂 (heart) Hugs

  19. Carol anne says:

    I am the adult child of an alcoholic also, my dad is an alcoholic, i am 43, and I live with complex PTSD, and dissociative identity disorder, if you’d like to follow me my blog is http://therapybits.com/ <3

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you for reaching out and I will sign up right now, thank you!

  20. Willie Torres Jr. says:

    I completely agree. Despite all the struggles, we’ve grown stronger, wiser, and more compassionate. We truly are resilient warriors, shining and thriving in the present moment.

    1. jonicaggiano says:

      Thank you so much Willie for your kind comment and I certainly agree. Many blessings to you.

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